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OUR LIVES IN A SNAP

By Lubnah Abdulhalim

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Me-Snap

Food-Snap

Location-Snap

Spouse-Snap

Friends-Snap

Shoes-Snap

Gift-Snap

Family Outing- Snap

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We are all living in the technology frenzy and all we have are camera clicks everywhere we go. With the coming of the selfies, oh my, people couldn’t get busier. The reality is that we have lost the actual essence of taking photos and videos. We no longer buy shoes because we need them, we no longer even enjoy the food that we really like. We no longer really cherish the moments we live because we are all focused on taking photos and posting them on social media so that the world can see what we ate, what we wore, what we did. And the real value of these moments all go to waste because as soon as the photos are deleted from our gallery then that’s the end of it.

So picture this scenario.Here we are, in a very beautiful place, having wonderful food with the people we love most but what are we doing? The first thing we do is take photos of the food, of the place, of you all; but while we are busy doing all this, we forget the actual essence of our outing or picnic or whatever the occasion is. We are now cherishing the photos more than the real value of the photo or the whole event.We don’t even remember the conversations we have because we are only half listening; everyone busy taking snaps to show off to the world.

Technology has made us in a daze. We are slowly selling our entire lives to technology and before we realize it, our lives would be nothing more but a snap. All our moments will mean nothing to us because we didn’t really participate in creating a memory.

As we grow old, maybe at one time when you are at your 80’s you will be looking at your phone, your gallery full of photos that you took over time but they end up to be just photos. Photos that don’t have any value to you; meaningless snaps, because you were busy snapping instead of living the actual moment.

Live the moment. It doesn’t come twice. Don’t let the snap dictate your life!

I WANNA BE A BREAKER

By Lubnah Abdulhalim

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Dreams crashing down

like the stars falling down

my thoughts make me drown

is it just my eyes

or is the grass also turning brown?

My heart makes me frown

I wanna be a breaker

not the kind that breaks hearts in a flicker

but the one who takes a break from the world.

Wings broken, with nothing to hold

alas, my heart will forever scold

of the soul that’s grown so cold

but hey, comes the inner whisper

an inner calling, an inner fixer

You can be a breaker

not the kind that destroys

Oh no..not even the kind that betrays

but the one that disappears

The one who deals with his fears.

Tears flowing

Under the moon, so glowing

is it just my soul

Even in daylight, that falls?

Oh yes I wanna be a breaker

not the kind that escapes

his challenges, his miseries

but the kind that closes on the world

to filter, to absorb.

I don’t wanna be a record-breaker

oh no…not even the one to initiate an ice breaker

I wanna take a break

a break from the screams of the universe

I wanna drown into the silence

oh yes I crave for that kind of presence

of nothing but my soul’s stillness

I wanna be immersed in the tranquility

of peace and spirituality

don’t you get it?

I just wanna be a breaker

the kind that takes a break from the world.

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Every day of our lives is a new adventure; a new odyssey and within this limited time we have on earth, we meet all kinds of people; different colours, different characters, different religions, different backgrounds of which in one way or another have an impact in our lives. Some will love us, some will teach us lessons, some will anticipate our downfall but all in all, all these people have created some sort of difference in us.

There may have been a time when you were accused for something you are not, maybe people misjudged your intentions, or questioned your trustworthiness, or doubted your abilities or pointed fingers at you for something you are innocent about then please remember this; a rose by any other name is still a rose.

People may hate you for what you are, they may criticize you, they may want to bring you down with their words but shut your ears to what they say; you don’t need such negative forces entering your brain. They may call you names, they may insult you but when you are a rose, even when they call you a cactus, it doesn’t make you one. The most important thing is that you are who you are. You know yourself better than anyone else; you know your struggles, your dreams, your pain and your path and you DON’T need to justify yourself in front of anyone.

One of the greatest lessons we are taught in life is that you shouldn’t have any expectations on anyone or anything. When you love then do so truly and be content with what you have in your heart even when the rest don’t love you back. When you give then give sincerely, give to whoever is in need even if it is your worst enemy and without hoping that one day they will appreciate you. Truth is, human beings barely appreciate anything they have or are given. So when you do anything do it with a pure heart and then leave. Dont wait for a thank you or anything. And when people start pointing fingers and criticizing you, then take a swift turn and walk away without saying anything. You don’t have to prove to anyone or even the world that you are good or that you meant good or that you cared. You don’t have to justify your actions. You don’t have to tell anyone, ‘I did this because it was the best for you’ because one other important thing we should all realize is that just like you can’t force a cow to drink from the river, then you also can’t convince a person or people who have pre-assumed attitudes on you, to think otherwise.

Life is too short for meaningless friendships, forced interactions or unnecessary conversations. So just do your thing and forget that you even did it. Not everyone deserves to know the real you so let them criticize who they think you are. For as long as you know that all your intentions are sincere and pure, don’t listen to what the world has to say about you. God knows the real you and that is what really ever mattered. Maybe one day they will understand and maybe they will also appreciate you but dont wait for that day because it may never come.

MY SMALL CUBICLE

By Lubnah Abdulhalim

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My life has always been like a small cubicle office with different frequent visits from different people. My mum always saw me having new visitors at home or laughing on a phone call from someone new and she’d always ask ‘who is it this time? A friend from school?’ And my answer was mostly a no because I rarely had friends but I had a friend of my friend, the neighbour to my friend, the classmate of my friend, the cousin to my friend, my sister’s friend etc etc

My mum came to barely remember any names or even faces because people quickly came into my small cubicle and as quickly, exited it. A name would be familiar for some days and just as sudden as the name appeared into my life, it faded away as soon as one had had their loved ones back, had new friends, had had enough of my entertainment..had stopped feeling lonely..had gotten enough strength to stand on their feet once again. And another would appear. So she’d ask ‘where do you come up with new friends out of nowhere, just all of a sudden? ‘

‘Destiny…’ I’d mumble.

I got used to the idea that everything is temporary. I am temporary; I was meant to be temporary..and I’d always wondered when I’d meet my permanent people?

Nonetheless I’ve learnt to enjoy these short visits to my small cubicle; the little laughters, the little secrets, the little jokes, the thrilling stories, shared experiences..I had served my purpose in their lives by giving them what they needed and they had served in mine; by giving me the little joy that I’ll always cherish. It’s called compromise.

IS A CRIME JUSTIFIED BY ANOTHER??

By: Lubnah Abdulhalim

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At one point of our lives we must go through pain, betrayal, heartbreaks, or any other kind of suffering. That is life and without all these problems that we go through, we could as well be in heaven straight away. These problems are what can change a personality forever. Could be for the better or for the worse. Most of the times though, people tend to get so bitter on what has befallen them and decide to follow the dark path of revenge which brings us to the question, is a crime justified by another??

Taking a scenario of a lady who was raped and contracted AIDS. The lady thereby decides to seduce all men coming to her way so that she can spread the disease to others with the lame and selfish thinking of ‘I shouldn’t die alone.’ No, it is never justified. No humanity law will ever justify your action. A crime remains a crime whatever the case and a sin remains to be a sin whatever the situation.

Human beings should stop making each other victims of their lust, greed and selfishness just because they have been in a hard situation. Who in this world has never been in a hard situation? Who in this universe has never tested pain? No one. Not even the queen of England or the Sultan of Oman. Not the pauper nor the begger. For sure when we were told ‘an eye for an eye’ it never meant you go poking everyone’s eye you meet on the way just because someone poked yours. It is not acceptable to be ruthless on others for something they have no connection to.

Many a times we have seen people who get horribly heart broken by their loved ones ache and mourn for so long about their pain to the extent of becoming so cold hearted and heartless. Their lives may never become the same and they tend to become so rough to the people who come into their lives afterwards.  But why should it be so? Why should it be that it is always the next person that has to pay the consequences done by someone else? Why are the undeserving ones that always fall to become the victims of someone’s anger and frustration?

We all feel pain and not just feeling it, we live with it. It sometimes becomes part of us. We understand you are hurt. We understand that your life may never be the same again. We understand your suffering and aching. We do. But no one will ever understand why you have to pay it forward to the next person in such a ruthless and heartless way. No one will justify your actions, because you are never justified. Because a crime remains a crime and one crime doesn’t make another be alright.

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One year ago, my aunt was critically ill with diabetics and her leg had been mutilated thrice.Every evening at the end of my classes I would go to the hospital to check on her condition. She was my mentor and the only other person who deserved the name ‘mum’ after my real mum. So on one particular evening, my mum called me to rush to the hospital and check on my aunt. I was so tired just from class and didn’t want to meet that familiar hospital smells and cries that would always depress me. I refused to go but mum insisted that I should go. Dragging my feet, I got there and saw the critical condition of my aunt that she wouldn’t answer back when we talked to her. She was writhing in deep pain and I watched her helplessly. All I could do was hold her hand and silently pray. That was the last night I ever saw her for early the next morning she passed on. To date, I say to myself, if I didn’t go to see her on that night, then I would have hated myself all my life. Not because I would have changed anything but because it is those last moments beside her that really ever mattered.

Many a times we take what comes on our way for granted and always think that there are yet otherr chances to come. Like how we get a job opportunity not paying much but worth the take but let our arrogance take control over us. We would rather sit lazily around than take the little that we get. The worst part of it all is when you come to realization that you made a mistake and regret but life never offers you such a chance ever again.

How many times do we annoy our parents and bring them nothing but sadness, how many times we break the only true people who ever loved us, how many times do we postpone meetings and appointments, how many of brilliant opportunities did we have and yet wasted them?

Life sometimes may offer you another chance if you are lucky enough. Maybe you wasted your teen life in drugs and illegalities but then your star starts shining on you and you get counselled and rehabilitated and you get a new start for your life and be happy again but not everything in life is the same. Some things are not meant to return or be re-lived. It could be that that particular day that you decide to stomp out of the house while yelling at your mum could be the last time you ever see her.

Beware of people’s anger on you, you may never have the chance to apologize. Beware of not caring on what you do, there will always be a time whereby your actions will backfire on you. Beware of not showing your loved ones how much they mean to you, you may never get the chance to ever do so again. Beware of ignoring meetings or appointments, that friend of yours who is about to travel may just die on his way back. Beware of postponing what you can do today to tomorrow. Beware of all the things you take for granted. Beware before you become regrettably aware.

HUMAN BEINGS AS ANIMALS

BY: Lubnah Abdulhalim

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A bird wakes up very early in the morning without any idea what to eat or where to find the food, but they have three aspects in their minds. First, they have the certainty that they will find food for themselves and their young ones and they have faith that God has a plan for them. Second, they have the will power to rise up early in search for food. Lastly, they have the aspect of hard work in them that makes them fly all day long for food. They come back to their nests in the end of the day with their stomachs full, together with their young ones and yet still have no idea or plan where they will get food for tomorrow. That is what we can call; HOPE.An early bird catches a worm; this truly justifies the kind of lives we human beings should comply with but unfortunately a vast number of human wait for the silver platter.

 

A baobab tree is believed to be one of the strongest species of trees that can live hundreds of years but termites with their aspect of unity bring down the tree.

 

Alongside with other types of animals and insects who work hard in getting what they need in terms of food, water and other things,  there are those animals that have great hard work but zero effort. Example is of the kind of ants that keep crawling around the mouth of a traditional pot, in pursue of what is inside of the pot but they end up going round and round the same circumference. Their hard work is great but they have no effort to get down inside the pot.

 

Parasites are many; those depending on other species to acquire their needs. An example is that of the ticks who keep depending on their hosts, each day moving from one host to another.

 

Nonetheless, there are animals that are lazy. Waiting for their food to appear right in front of their eyes is when they put that little effort to get hold of the food. This is exactly the same thing that happens in human beings. There are human beings who are like the bird, they believe, put in effort and venture out blindly without knowing what exactly they will find, but they have hope that their hard work will due be paid by God.

 

And just like the termites, we have the people or communities who work together in solidarity and thus they always are successful in what they do. They share ideas, help each other, support each other and the beauty of it all is that this shared efforts bring about love and harmony within the community.

 

The ant-like human beings are those that work hard but yet have no focus towards what they really want.  It reminds me of a character by the name Popo in the book ‘Miguel Street’ in my university course who was a carpenter. He was always busy with the woods and one could see him really working and yet whenever he was asked what he was making, he would say ‘I am making the thing without a name.’ Popo ended up making nothing out of his hard work.

 

The parasites in human beings are so many. You could find a man lying in bed all day long hoping that food would get to him like manna or depending on his wife to go out and work and feed him and the family instead. Others are those that seat idle in the ‘maskani’ and whining all day that they got no jobs. Now how will you get the job if you don’t search for it? Others sit on the streets begging while others depend on their brothers to satisfy their needs and wants.

 

God brought us animals so they may be a teaching to us and so we may learn from their living. So in what category are you? The early bird, the confused ants, the termites or the parasites and the lazy ones? Think about it and learn to change accordingly. We only reap what we sow and where there is a will there is a way.

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When a person succeeds through the university life, then one has surely achieved something in their lives. Many have wanted to get to university or college or even campus so that they may have that key to success in life but never even got to see the university gate or got as far as first or second year before dropping out. It is for this that young lads have high employment hopes after graduation. Immediately after the ceremony, we all rush up and down to get employed in an office somewhere. The morale is obviously at its peak at this point especially with the bachelor’s degree or master’s degree in hand… but … not for so long.

Once one steps into the job called ‘kazi ya kutafuta kazi’ then reality strikes you hard. Sometimes having a degree or even a master’s degree doesn’t really guarantees you a job on the ground. It may take one, months or even years before finally securing a job somewhere. Many people gave up hope in the process and ended up idle in the streets while others ventured into illegal businesses like drug trafficking. It isn’t anything new that unemployment is dragging our country behind and Kenyans have lived to see very educated people selling water or becoming ‘mama mboga’ and others have done a totally different field in jobs from the course they studied, due to unemployment.

Employment has become an issue of luck rather than a person’s intellectuality. Some people who just have a diploma or even form four finishers have been able to sometimes acquire a job before the more learned and intelligent people. It is this kind of competition that many people are facing at the moment and for a lifetime but once one acquires the job, then he is overjoyed such that he forgets all that hustle they went through.

After that now comes the salary issue whereby everyone builds castles in the air of huge amounts of money they will acquire. The fresh youth from graduation are always anticipating the receiving of the cash and have high hopes that they will earn well since they believe their education level or intelligence is high enough. Well, the bosses know better and sometimes, one may end up earning as low as a quarter of the estimation you made on your salary!

That is not all; you then come to realize that having a job is not a bed of roses as such. There is a heap of work waiting for you each morning, some annoying colleagues or maybe an irritating boss. What can be most disturbing is when you have to redo your work again or the consistent summoning by the boss on the do’s and don’ts that you are not following.  Sometimes you have to work for extra hours such that when you get home, your family is already asleep and you leave too early to work when everyone is still asleep. There are many sacrifices one has to make at times, like that of going to work even on Sundays, during public holidays or even having to miss family weddings and events.

End month is the time all employees countdown to, especially when it gets to half month and they are next to bankruptcy! It is a moment of joy and everyone celebrates it in their own way. Others give themselves a treat while others save it for the future. And the reward for all the sacrifices is always remarkable; when one gets his salary and is able to accomplish their dreams and satisfy the family’s needs at that.

Acquiring a job may be hectic but being in the job, being able to secure it and profit from it is even trickier. It is for this reason we are to respect all those people rushing up and down in offices and even the ones selling newspapers and food stuff by the roads. Respect as well to the ones spending all their coins and energy in search of jobs too! Because as they say ‘kazi ni kazi na hata kutafuta kazi ni kazi!’

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If given a choice, majority of people would choose never to die and want to live forever. As for the rest few who would choose death, then it is probably the holy ones for believe they have a chance to meet their Lord and probably the ones who are facing so much misery in their lives and they think that death would be a relief to them. But maybe we should take a minute and picture our lives without death. Many would like the idea of such a life; all of us with our families living happily ever after, right? This is the first thought that would come to mind but there is definitely more to it.Death is one of the most dreaded and hated things in life. We all don’t want our loved ones to part away from us and we all wish we could have our parents for as long as possible. But death was never predictable, whereas the old woman whom everyone thought would die in a few days, lived longer while the teen just got involved in an accident and passed away. That’s how unpromising tomorrow is because it may never come. Many tend to live in fear on how death would come to them. Would they suffer cancer, diabetes, AIDS or maybe a stroke would be the reason of their death? Or would their death be sudden like someone just slept and never woke up or he had an unexpected accident or he slipped down the stairs and died? We all wish we could know how our end would be and maybe prevent ourselves as much as possible from what is to cause our death.

If death never existed, that means that we would all be living with our fathers and grandfathers and great grandfathers and our forefathers! Just imagine the chaos that would be there. Father is suffering from cancer, grandfather is blind, great grandfather has Alzheimer; all in one house. Your father needs to be taken to hospital, grandfather needs you as his support around the house, great grandfather keeps forgetting and you need to change his elderly diapers. Not forgetting that your wife still needs you to provide a meal on the table and your children need to be picked from school.

Our forefathers would be walking in the streets like zombies with so much amazement and shock. The noise, the many cars going to and fro, the very tall buildings will all make them feel dizzy. But that’s not all, they see everyone talking with this gadget they call the cell phone and they imagine everyone is going crazy. Since our forefathers are expected to be almost like monkeys in the evolution theory, journalists would surround them in frenzy and the light from the cameras would make them panic a bit more. They would want to interview them day in day out to know how life really was during their prime ages.

More children are born every day and we are so occupied not knowing whether to tend to the new born baby or the fore fathers who need you too. If we are living in billions right now in the world, then definitely statistics would be filled until people get tired and decide to record the numbers of people as ‘to infinity’.

People like Hitler too would still be alive and maybe we would by now have had our ‘world war 102’ and the difference would be that no one dies in the wars, just injuries and defeat. Terrorists would all be busy trying to terrorize the whole world and the previous presidents would be flocking to vie for the presidential seat again; so probably the late president Kenyatta would still be alive and maybe he would have gone against his own son in the elections. How interesting!

Maybe death is really important and needed in our lives because the wisdom behind it is quite great. In the life of no end and no return, lies more misery than when we encounter death.

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Sometimes in life, all we need is a break from the worldly issues; the waking up very early in the morning, getting the children ready for school, rushing to job, struggling and hustling, coming back very tired while the children are still depending on you to make their dinner and prepare them for sleep. If not that then it is surely the crazy confusing school life were you have to draw the geography features or cramming the biology terminologies, the math formulas and knowing the mole equations of Chemistry at your finger tips. It all seems like there’s total madness everywhere and once you get home you just want to eat and drop yourself dead at your bed.

Life has tested us in so many ways and there are times we just have many thoughts and worries that could barely be escaped but it is healthy that once in a while you disappear from the crowded world and find solace in your own created world. Taking a break or having a holiday doesn’t necessary have to be a journey or traveling to a far place. Sometimes all you have to do is take an off from job for a few days, lock yourself in your house, put off your phone and spend quality time with yourself. You don’t have to be rich to be happy. Just make good use of the little much you have. Watch movies, spend special time with your friends, family and loved ones, talk a walk, explore yourself and learn more things about yourself that you didn’t know before. Take time and reflect more on your life out of the normal routine. Try to plan the necessary changes and ask for God’s help.

Do remember that you are not the only one in this life facing challenges and that very many more would die to have the kind of life you lead. Just as much you seem lost and confused with the busy world, have time to appreciate yourself and the little you were able to achieve.

Have time with your family; let them know how much you love them. Get closer and get to know them better for the memories you make with them are unforgettable.

Make new resolutions for yourself and ensure that you are not going to repeat your mistakes again. Remember, the main aim of the break is for you to make the best use of your time by finding peace; so find it. Go to the beach or calmly sit by the verandah with a novel and a glass of juice beside. Don’t let anyone get to your nerves and avoid meeting pessimists or people who don’t really matter to you. This is your time to be happy and be stress free. It is the time to start falling in love with you. Give charity and smile to everyone you pass by, yes, smile; people would think you are acting like a fool but n the end of the day, it doesn’t really matter what anyone thinks.

If you are a student, make new strategies for yourself that will ensure you have a special come back. You don’t have to over work yourself but instead, learn to study smart and still have time to relax.

It is advisable that you take such breaks every once in a while so that your mind can relax a bit and try to be a better and happier person. ‘So laugh your heart out, dance in the rain, cherish the moment, and ignore the pain. Live. Laugh. Love. Forgive and forget. Life is too short to be living with regrets.’

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