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Considerations For Marriage

Before we start on what things to consider, here are essential things first:

*Know what you’re looking for.

*Be moderate on the things you’re seeking in a spouse i.e. Be flexible; don’t be too rigid, too specific or have too high expectations. All human beings are flawed in some way, if you aren’t flexible or are seeking perfection, you might struggle for too long to find what you’re looking for, or never find it. Please note that I am not saying you should lower your standards but be realistic in your expectations.

For example, you say you want a husband between the age of 30-35 years but he must be making five or six figures income. I mean, yeah we do have some who do make six figures in that age group but how many?! True, you might actually be lucky and find one, but realistically, is that possible? Are you in an environment that has such individuals? Are you coming from an extremely wealthy family that has connections with other extremely wealthy families that can give you a network to find such an individual? Are you in any way exposed to such individuals? How much do you earn yourself? What are you bringing to the table that would interest such a man/woman to marry you?

Know your worth yes. Have standards yes. Don’t put yourself down yes yes yes! But be realistic, be smart, please.

*Be very aware of the assumption of ‘He/she will change.’ People only change when they are aware and want and put in 100% effort to change. So when considering any individual, see them for who they are NOW, not what they potentially could be in the future if they change. This can easily be one of the most painful ways to harm yourself. The only way this could work is if you find a person already in the process of working on themselves and changing their bad behaviours through taking concrete steps like going for therapy, or rehabilitation (in case of addiction) or having a concrete plan to cut down on their habits (and following that plan!), or acquiring skills that will help with the improvement of the self, not just fake promises and empty words.

* Marry someone who understands your situation. For example, you’re a revert and have no family that is still in touch with you. You’d want someone to understand your situation and not take advantage of you. Or you come from an abusive family and have strained relationships with the members. Some people don’t understand these situations and still expect you to just tolerate the abuse. Or a widow/divorcee with children from a previous marriage-she’d need a man who understands that these children will become his responsibility after marriage.

Another example, an Israeli sister reverts to Islam and wants to get married to a Palestinian whose family is in Gaza. There’s quite a conflict of interest here because each has their family in the warring places, so how will this work? Will the wife understand if the husband refuses to go visit his Israeli in-laws? Will she understand if the husband’s family do not accept her? Will she understand when her husband tells the children about the Palestinian occupation in his own view of things? I mean, some people do take these risks and do get married. But it is important to be prepared for the challenges that come after that.

*Be careful not to let anyone abuse you or take advantage of you. For example, someone wants to marry you in order to acquire citizenship or a green card or a prestigious job in your father’s company etc. Or a man wants to marry a wealthy widow to take advantage of her wealth, or a man wants to marry a revert without paying mahr or giving her very minimal amounts due to her lack of knowledge on her mahr rights. This just shows that someone has no respect for you and your emotions; they’re simply using you.

*Don’t give up hope on what you’re looking for. Marriage is a matter of fate and Allah knows which is the best time for you. Have patience, do your due diligence by searching and make lots of dua that Allah grants you what you want and what is kheyr for you. In your dua, mention the qualities and characteristics you’re looking for. Don’t be shy and don’t limit yourself in what you ask for, for it is only with Allah that there are absolutely no limits in asking.

So what are the things you should consider for marriage?

Please note that the whole purpose of this segment is to give you a guide on how to go about the process of choosing a spouse, not rules to be followed strictly. Life is not simply black and white and fate is very very mysterious. So many very unlikely individuals have had very successful marriages and so many who seemed well put together ended up divorced. There is no 100% guaranteed formula for a successful marriage because at the end of the day, as much as we make the choices, fate could have very different plans for us. Many things differ from era to era, case to case, individual to individual, culture to culture and context to context so please read the following with an open mind.

1. Love

So in the first part of this series, we mentioned how we shouldn’t overestimate the importance of love ALONE in a marriage. As much as that is very true, we can never deny how essential it is for the growth and nurturing of that marriage.

Ibn Abbas reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, โ€œWe do not see for those who love one another anything like marriage.โ€[Sunan ibn Majah 1847]

This hadith acknowledges that two individuals can in fact have feelings of admiration and affection before marriage, and the best thing for them is to get married so as to safeguard their chastity and complete half their deen. When love is pure and for the sake of Allah then it is one of the most beautiful things.

We further understand the importance of love in marriage when Allah Subhanahu Wataala said in Suratul Rum, verse 21: “And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.”

I remember watching this very insightful clip by Sheikh Nouman Ali Khan where he explains this ayah and he said, “Allah mentioned one thing about marriage that is on top, number one. Everything else is later. He said he made you into spouses for the purpose that you could find peace (tranquility). Sometimes you could love someone without respecting them. You can love someone without being honest with them. You can love someone without caring for them properly. You can love someone but hate their family. And all of these things, you know what they do? They take away the peace. So even if love is there, peace is not. And when peace is not there, the purpose of marriage is gone. The purpose is not love; this comes from Allah (As stated in the ayah above). The purpose is not care (or mercy) that comes from Allah too. Your purpose is to find peace.” (Watch it here)

So the question then becomes, what gives you peace? Is it being respected? Is it being valued? Is it being understood? Is it being prioritized? All the above? Whatever it is, that is what you should be looking for.

I absolutely love poetry so here’s one of my favourite pieces by Andrea Gibson:

“Lately I’ve been thinking about who I want to love, and how I want to love, and why I want to love the way I want to love, and what I need to learn to love that way, and how I need to become, to become the kind of love I want to be. And when I break it all down, when I whittle it into a single breath, it essentially comes out like this: before I die, I want to be somebody’s favourite hiding place, the place they can put everything they need to survive, every secret, every solitude, every nervous prayer, and be absolutely certain that I will keep it safe. I will keep it safe.”

This isn’t plain old love, this is about being someone’s love and some more; bringing them peace and being their home-their safest haven. Being a source of warmth, calm and support for them ๐Ÿ™‚

Again, hopeless romantics, this is in no way an undermining of the importance of love in marriage. If you love someone, do marry them, for marriage without love is tasteless. But please do consider the other important things to you too. The hope and prayer is that we get to experience the love, the peace and the mercy all at once, ameen!

2. Deen

The Prophet (๏ทบ) said, “A woman is married for four things: for her wealth, for her lineage, for her beauty or for her piety. Select the pious, may you be blessed!”. (Riyad as-Salihin 364)

And in another hadith, the prophet peace be upon him said, โ€œWhen someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so there will be temptation in the earth and extensive corruption.” (Mishkat al-Masabih 3090)

It is without a doubt that religion is the most important thing to consider in a future spouse. The question to ask oneself is, ‘when I say I want someone religious, what exactly do I mean?’ Religion has levels to it. Someone could say I want a man who is Muslim and fulfils the obligations i.e. prayers, saum, zakat, hajj..khalas. That is enough for me.

Someone else could say I want a man who not only fulfils the obligations but observes the sunnah as well and avoids innovations and major sins i.e. fasting Monday and Thursdays, gives charity regularly, prays qiyam, does not listen to music, follows Qur’an and Sunnah.

Someone else could say I want a man who has studied the Islamic shariah or is an imam or is a hafidh…

You get the gist? Religiosity has levels to it and it is very important for you to know exactly what you’re looking for. Here’s why:

People are on different journeys towards Allah and to some extent, we expect our partners to join us in those journeys and help us grow. However, we also have to be realistic about it. Some individuals are willing to improve their deen and grow and some people are comfortable where they are. So what of those unwilling to become better in their deen? They never said they want to change, why are you giving yourself that task then? People ultimately change because they want to, not because someone else wants to. Advice is golden, sure, people do influence each other to become better, sure. But marrying someone and you’re not pleased with where they are at with their religiosity then trying to force it down their throat thereafter is very frustrating for both parties.

For example, an imam marries a non-hijabi woman. If the woman herself has continuously (and not just for the sake of marriage) shown interest in improving her Islam then that is a different case. He most probably will be a positive influence on her. But imagine him marrying her and then forcing her to wear the hijab. In his opinion, this is his responsibility, this is his wife…that is all true. But you also knew the woman you intended to marry wasn’t wearing hijab, why accept her if you were not pleased with how she is, in the first place?

Or in the case of a pious woman marrying a man who only prays during Ramadhan and he doesn’t even see a problem with that. It then becomes a torment for the woman, trying to push him every single day to pray.

In short, marry someone who doesn’t have a huge gap with your level of religiosity or marry someone who has a higher level than you if you intend to acquire their assistance in your journey to Allah. This does not in any way mean you should undermine anyone. Our imaan is always going up and down and perhaps someday, the person you once looked down upon could one day be closer to Allah than you. However, to avoid problems and unrealistic expectations between the couple, it is advisable that we seek people who are at least close to us or slightly higher than us. This also includes considerations of their sect, aqeedah and avoidance of innovation and major sins.

3. Character

Religiosity without good character traits is not enough. This is because our religion highly promotes good character and thus our prophet peace be upon him was sent to us as a role model and a guide so as to direct us on how to be noble human beings.

This is important to look out for because sometimes seemingly religious people might have such bad behaviours and even abusive habits. So even if you’re pleased with someone’s piety, check out their character too.

Some of the good character traits and qualities to be observed in a person are:

*Generosity and kindness (not just in money but everything i.e. generous in your smile, generous in your giving, generous in your assistance to others by using your time or energy etc)


*Wisdom and Maturity


*Etiquette in talking, eating and how you act around others

*Smiling face

*Modesty (both men and women)


*Compassion/Loving nature

*Fertile women (The prophet peace be upon him said, ‘Marry the one who is fertile and loving, for I will boast of your great numbers.’ (Sunan an-Nasa’i 3227). Ibn Qudaamah said in al-Mughni:  It is mustahabb that she be from a family whose women are known to bear many children. This comes as a high suggestion from the prophet peace be upon him, nonetheless, it doesn’t mean that infertile women shouldn’t be married. Just as it is permissible for a woman to marry an infertile man, it is also permissible for a man to marry an infertile woman. 

*Virginity for both man and woman (This does not mean the widows and divorcees are not valued, but rather, this is mentioned because the first experiences cause a strong emotional connection between the couple. Nonetheless, the prophet peace be upon him also advised the marriage of divorcees and widows in other contexts. So this differs according to the context).

4. Suitability and Compatibility

“When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so there will be temptation in the earth and extensive corruption.”

In the explanation of the hadith above, shaykh Waleed Al Basyouni mentioned that when the prophet said ‘someone whose religion and character you are satisfied with’, the word ‘satisfied’ means that you as a father/walii finds this individual as a suitable match for your daughter. Suitable not just in terms of their religiosity or character but also in terms of other matters. This means that sometimes a good, pious man could want your daughter for marriage but may not be suitable for her in one aspect or another.

Lineage and status: Many people consider family lineage and status in order to avoid incompatibility between individuals, however, we do have several cases during the prophet’s time where women of very high status were wedded to ex-slaves or sons of ex-slaves. For example, it has been reported that the Prophet (peace be upon him) married Fatimah bint Qays who was a Qurashy to his freed slave Usamah ibn Zayd (may Allah be pleased with them). The prophet also asked Banu Bayadah to marry off one of his daughters to Abu Hind who was a cupper. There are so many such incidents that happened during the prophet’s time. This is based on the general meaning of Allah’s Saying: “Verily, the most honourable of you with Allรขh is that (believer) who has At-Taqwรข [i.e. he is one of the Muttaqรปn (the pious)].”

Read the response below to a question on marrying above one’s social level from the website islamqa.info.

Social level may refer to lineage, wealth, education, profession or job, or it may mean all of them. If a manโ€™s religious commitment and character are pleasing, then he is compatible with the woman, no matter what her social level, according to the more correct view. This is the basic principle and the ruling of shareeโ€™ah. But it remains to examine the situation of each suitor and whether he is suitable to marry one whose social level is above him, or not. 

It seems โ€“ and Allaah knows best โ€“ that if the difference is great in terms of lineage, wealth, education and profession, that it is not advisable to go ahead with this marriage, because there are usually problems from the woman or her family. There may be differences in lifestyle and the ways in which they do things, which may put the spouses off one another. 

But if the difference is small, or it has to do with one area but can be made up for in another area, then there is nothing wrong with it in that case, such as if the husband is poor but he is highly qualified, or he is qualified for a decent job, or some of his family are of high standing and so on. 

Then there are cases in which the woman and her family are so righteous that they are above looking at material concerns and measuring people thereby, and they may want to choose a husband who is poor because of his righteousness and so on. But it is better if the husband is the one who is of a higher status.   

Whatever the case, the precise advice in each case depends on complete knowledge of both parties and their families. Perhaps you can seek advice from someone whom you trust in your community.

Personality: There is also the aspect of compatibility in personality. Perhaps a woman is very social and likes spending time outdoors i.e. an extrovert, while the husband is more of an indoor individual. Not that a marriage of these individuals will not work, for we have many of such contrasting personalities and they have succeeded in their marriages. The thing here is, it is important to know of these things before the marriage so that you can think of whether this works for you. For example, the extroverted wife would want to often times go visit her family and go for outings and events, and maybe the introverted husband would not be comfortable living with such a woman. It is thus important for the two to discuss how they can manoeuvre their different personalities and meet halfway so as to avoid frustrations in the marriage. Sometimes individuals decide to break off their deal based on the same.

Another example is, you might dislike very talkative and loud individuals, while someone else might find the very quiet ones to be too boring. Someone else might like individuals who are humorous and crack many jokes, while someone else might consider such individuals to be too unserious with life. Someone might like individuals who are ambitious and passionate about their careers while someone else might feel these individuals are just workaholics and have no life apart from their work. So as they say, one man’s poison is another man’s meat. What might work for you, might not work for another. So it is important for the two individuals to regard whether their personalities are suitable for each other, and if not, whether they’re still willing to go ahead with the marriage and what strategies will they have in place to balance their life.

Lifestyle: Considerations of one’s lifestyle should also be considered. For example, think of a man who is a social media influencer and he highlights his life online. Perhaps he might expect his wife to become part of this lifestyle and maybe attend events with him. Maybe he also travels a lot and stays away from home many times. Yet perhaps the woman values her privacy greatly and would not like to be subjected to fame. And perhaps she wouldn’t want her husband to be far away from her most of the time. A marriage between the two could lead to problems if boundaries are not set from the very beginning and strategies are not kept on how to balance their life.

Think of a very educated woman who has built her career throughout her adult years. Then a man marries her then asks her to stay at home and refuses for her to do any sort of work. Some women are actually okay with being housewives and dedicating their lives to nurturing their homes and children but some are not. As controversial as this topic gets, the bottom line is this: If what a woman is doing with her life is not appealing to you, kindly find someone else who will be what you need. You need a housewife? Find a woman who is ready to be one. You want a career woman who is empowered financially? Find one who is already that or is willing to take up a career. Don’t wait until after marriage to force anyone to live a life they didn’t sign up for.

Interests and Hobbies: When it comes to interests and hobbies, it is often better when potential spouses have similar interests and hobbies. These will give them an opportunity to bond further and get to spend their free time together. For example, individuals who both read could discuss their favourite books and give each other suggestions. Individuals who both love fitness could go for walks together or do fitness programs together. For individuals who both enjoy travelling, they can save money and time to travel together. For individuals who love nature, they could start their own small garden at their home or something like that. No two people will ever be 100% similar but having some similarities in interests can be advantageous in a marriage.

Education: If a woman who loves to seek knowledge is married to a man who dropped out of school because of a lack of interest in studies, then some problems might arise in their marriage. For example, the man might not see the need for his wife to keep studying and spending money on different courses. He might consider this a waste of time and money and might lead to constant complaints and fights on the same issue.

As such, it is advisable that individuals marry those who are almost similar in their education levels. The shaykh gave an example of a woman who had two degrees from Harvard University and was married to a young pious man who had only studied the deen and was an imam but he had no secular education at all. The shaykh explained that he knew both individuals and they were both pious and of very good character. Yet their marriage faced many challenges because each one of them had a very different way of looking at matters. This in no way means that one of them is better than the other. They both were good people, they just weren’t compatible.

Again, there are many couples who have healthy, loving relationships while having very different personalities, interests and even education levels. This should not discourage you to consider someone. Just be aware of those differences beforehand, think carefully about whether that works for you or not and how you can each healthily cope and adjust to your differences.

Please also note that having similar lifestyles, interests and personalities does not mean there will be no challenges at all. Even siblings born under the same roof and with the same parents have different ways of doing things. So what about someone from a different family, background and sometimes even different culture? As such, do know that there will still be adjustments and compromises to be made throughout the marriage.



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Misguidance, Humiliation, and Death Upon Them

One of the most striking stories for me is Barsisa’s; the man who was known for his spirituality, piety, and dedication to the religion yet he ended up being a fornicator, a murderer, and just before he died, a mushrik (for he bowed down for Shaitan). I think about Barsisa a lot. I talk about his story to anyone who cares to hear about it. I ponder on it because it gives me a reality check. None of us is safe from the whispers of shaitan. None of us is guaranteed to die upon guidance and on the straight path. His story (among many others) terrifies me. If this man who loved Allah Subhanahu Wataala deeply and was devoted to his worship had such a humiliating end, who am I to feel confident about my own religiosity?

Think about it; how many times have we witnessed the humiliation of prominent people; individuals known for their da’awah or charity work or whatever good they are known for? How many hijabis were we following and saw them as our role models and very heartbreakingly, we saw them remove hijab bit by bit as they gained popularity? Please don’t get me wrong. I do not look at them with the eye of judgment but rather, that of extreme fear. For myself. For my loved ones. That could be me. It could easily be me or you or your sister if Allah Subhanahu Wataala doesn’t protect us from our own selves and the whispers of shaitan.

With the kind of fitna we have right now, evil has become so popularized and romanticized to the extent that we don’t even realize when we start going the wrong way. And when we do, unfortunately, our friends and family would rather look from afar rather than reach out to us before worse gets to worst. When we finally have our downfall and public humiliation, we become ‘teaaaaa’ followed by laughing emojis among the social media citizens. We love the drama. We love the ‘I knew he/she was too good to be true’. We love the ‘She/He’s always been a hypocrite’. And yeah, perhaps they were truly hypocrites, and Allah Subhanahu Wataala finally exposed them. Or perhaps they lost control over their nafs and lost their way…who knows perhaps they will repent and be forgiven? How do we not take a moment to think about our own shortcomings and ponder our own direction? How confident are we that the same thing could never happen to you and me? So in our excitement, we retweet, we quote tweet, we share the videos and screenshots. We make jokes and create memes, because…it could never be you? We forget that we have our own skeletons in our wardrobes that Allah Subhanahu Wataala has skillfully concealed from the world.

Don’t get me wrong, there are some things that people have to be called out for; like when a person in da’awah is intentionally misleading people, or a person has been redirecting charity funds to their own accounts…you know, things that we would say that people NEED to know about because otherwise, it can be detrimental to the Muslim community. Yet when it is individualistic sins, how are we so quick to humiliate and shame others when Allah Subhanahu Wataala has concealed our own? How are we so sure that we would never fall into a similar sin? Subhanallah.

Such thoughts absolutely terrify me because what if I became misguided? Would anyone care enough to correct me? Guide me? Would anyone pray for me? Or would people wait to rejoice and make fun of my misguidance?

Sometimes I think people are not scared enough. And of course, I am not saying I have no hope in Allah’s mercy upon me or upon us all, but it just shocks me how comfortable people get seeing others fall into misguidance and the best they can do is gossip and humiliate further the individuals at wrong. It shocks me that we are not busy thinking of our own piles and piles of sins and begging Allah to protect us from a disgraceful and humiliating end Subhanallah. That we do not take that moment to make dua for them and for ourselves and our loved ones. Guaranteed Jannah much?!

Not for me at least. I realize how weak, flawed, and vulnerable I am. I realize that I am never better than the next person. I have no guarantee nor confidence except in the mercy of Allah Subhanahu Wataala.

Shahr bin Hawshab said: โ€œI said to Umm Salamah: โ€˜O Mother of the Believers! What was the supplication that the Messenger of Allah (๏ทบ) said most frequently when he was with you?โ€ She said: โ€˜The supplication he said most frequently was: โ€œO Changer of the hearts, make my heart firm upon Your religion (Yฤ Muqallibal-qulลซb, thabbit qalbฤซ `alฤ dฤซnik).โ€™โ€ She said: โ€˜So I said: โ€œO Messenger of Allah, why do you supplicate so frequently: โ€˜O Changer of the hearts, make my heart firm upon Your religion.โ€™ He said: โ€˜O Umm Salamah! Verily, there is no human being except that his heart is between Two Fingers of the Fingers of Allah, so whomsoever He wills He makes steadfast, and whomever He wills He causes to deviate.โ€™โ€ (Jami` at-Tirmidhi 3522)

So here I am…asking you to join me in asking Allah Subhanahu Wataala for His protection and guidance.

Ya Allah, please forgive us; both our private and public sins. Ya Rahman, have mercy on us. Grant us Your love and allows us to die upon firm faith. Please grant us good companions who will always remind us when we err and who will pray for us even after our death. We beg you Ya Allah, please conceal our shortcomings and guide us upon the truth. Grant us sincerity in all our actions and purify our souls.

Ya Muhaymin, be our Guardian and protect us from misguidance and humiliation. Protect us from the fitna of our times. Strengthen our imaan and make us among your most beloved servants.

Ya Al Haadi, when you see us deviating and going the wrong path, please bring us back to you in a beautiful way. Please bring us back to you in a beautiful manner. Please bring us back to you in a beautiful manner and allow us to die in a beautiful manner as well, ameen.

Here are some more duas from the sunnah and pious predecessors:

ุฑูŽุจูŽู‘ู†ูŽุง ู„ุงูŽ ุชูุฒูุบู’ ู‚ูู„ููˆุจูŽู†ูŽุง ุจูŽุนู’ุฏูŽ ุฅูุฐู’ ู‡ูŽุฏูŽูŠู’ุชูŽู†ูŽุง ูˆูŽู‡ูŽุจู’ ู„ูŽู†ูŽุง ู…ูู† ู„ูŽู‘ุฏูู†ูƒูŽ ุฑูŽุญู’ู…ูŽุฉู‹ ุฅูู†ูŽู‘ูƒูŽ ุฃูŽู†ุชูŽ ุงู„ู’ูˆูŽู‡ูŽู‘ุงุจู

โ€œOur Lord, let not our hearts deviate after You have guided us and grant us from Yourself mercy. Indeed, You are the Bestowerโ€.

ุงู„ู„ู‡ูู…ู‘ูŽ ุฃูŽุตู’ู„ูุญู’ ู„ููŠ ุฏููŠู†ููŠ ุงู„ู‘ูŽุฐููŠ ู‡ููˆูŽ ุนูุตู’ู…ูŽุฉู ุฃูŽู…ู’ุฑููŠุŒ ูˆูŽุฃูŽุตู’ู„ูุญู’ ู„ููŠ ุฏูู†ู’ูŠูŽุงูŠูŽ ุงู„ู‘ูŽุชููŠ ูููŠู‡ูŽุง ู…ูŽุนูŽุงุดููŠุŒ ูˆูŽุฃูŽุตู’ู„ูุญู’ ู„ููŠ ุขุฎูุฑูŽุชููŠ ุงู„ู‘ูŽุชููŠ ูููŠู‡ูŽุง ู…ูŽุนูŽุงุฏููŠุŒ ูˆูŽุงุฌู’ุนูŽู„ู ุงู„ู’ุญูŽูŠูŽุงุฉูŽ ุฒููŠูŽุงุฏูŽุฉู‹ ู„ููŠ ูููŠ ูƒูู„ู‘ู ุฎูŽูŠู’ุฑูุŒ ูˆูŽุงุฌู’ุนูŽู„ู ุงู„ู’ู…ูŽูˆู’ุชูŽ ุฑูŽุงุญูŽุฉู‹ ู„ููŠ ู…ูู†ู’ ูƒูู„ู‘ู ุดูŽุฑู‘ู

“Oh Allah, rectify for me my religion which is the safeguard of my affairs, and rectify for me the affairs of this world wherein is my sustenance, and rectify for me my Hereafter to which is my return, and make life for me an increase for every good, and make death a relief for me from every evil.”

ุงู„ู„ู‡ูู…ูŽู‘ ุงู‡ู’ุฏูู†ููŠ ูˆูŽุณูŽุฏูู‘ุฏู’ู†ููŠ

“Oh Allah! Guide me and set me on the straight path.”

ูŠูŽุง ู…ูู‚ูŽู„ู‘ูุจูŽ ุงู„ู’ู‚ูู„ููˆุจู ุซูŽุจู‘ูุชู’ ู‚ูŽู„ู’ุจููŠ ุนูŽู„ูŽู‰ ุฏููŠู†ููƒูŽโ€โ€

“Oh Changer of the hearts, make my heart firm upon Your religion.”

ุงู„ู„ู‘ูฐู‡ูู…ูŽู‘ ู…ูุตูŽุฑูู‘ููŽ ุงู„ู‚ูู„ููˆุจู ุตูŽุฑูู‘ูู’ ู‚ูู„ููˆุจูŽู†ูŽุง ุนูŽู„ูŽู‰ ุทูŽุงุนูŽุชููƒูŽ

“Oh Allah! Controller of the hearts, direct our hearts to Your obedience.”

ู„ู„ู‘ูŽู‡ูู…ู‘ูŽ ุงู‚ู’ุณูู…ู’ ู„ูŽู†ูŽุง ู…ูู†ู’ ุฎูŽุดู’ูŠูŽุชููƒูŽ ู…ูŽุง ุชูŽุญููˆู„ู ุจูู‡ู ุจูŽูŠู’ู†ูŽู†ูŽุง ูˆูŽุจูŽูŠู’ู†ูŽ ู…ูŽุนูŽุงุตููŠูƒูŽุŒ ูˆูŽู…ูู†ู’ ุทูŽุงุนูŽุชููƒูŽ ู…ูŽุง ุชูุจูŽู„ู‘ูุบูู†ูŽุง ุจูู‡ู ุฌูŽู†ู‘ูŽุชูŽูƒูŽุŒ ูˆูŽู…ูู†ูŽ ุงู„ู’ูŠูŽู‚ููŠู†ู ู…ูŽุง ุชูู‡ูŽูˆู‘ูู†ู ุจูู‡ู ุนูŽู„ูŽูŠู’ู†ูŽุง ู…ูŽุตูŽุงุฆูุจูŽ ุงู„ุฏู‘ูู†ู’ูŠูŽุงุŒ ุงู„ู„ู‘ูŽู‡ูู…ู‘ูŽ ู…ูŽุชู‘ูุนู’ู†ูŽุง ุจูุฃูŽุณู’ู…ูŽุงุนูู†ูŽุงุŒ ูˆูŽุฃูŽุจู’ุตูŽุงุฑูู†ูŽุงุŒ ูˆูŽู‚ููˆู‘ูŽุงุชูู†ูŽุง ู…ูŽุง ุฃูŽุญู’ูŠูŽูŠู’ุชูŽู†ูŽุงุŒ ูˆูŽุงุฌู’ุนูŽู„ู’ู‡ู ุงู„ู’ูˆูŽุงุฑูุซูŽ ู…ูู†ู‘ูŽุงุŒ ูˆูŽุงุฌู’ุนูŽู„ู’ ุซูŽุฃู’ุฑูŽู†ูŽุง ุนูŽู„ูŽู‰ ู…ูŽู†ู’ ุธูŽู„ูŽู…ูŽู†ูŽุงุŒ ูˆูŽุงู†ู’ุตูุฑู’ู†ูŽุง ุนูŽู„ูŽู‰ ู…ูŽู†ู’ ุนูŽุงุฏูŽุงู†ูŽุงุŒ ูˆูŽู„ูŽุง ุชูŽุฌู’ุนูŽู„ู’ ู…ูุตููŠุจูŽุชูŽู†ูŽุง ูููŠ ุฏููŠู†ูู†ูŽุงุŒ ูˆูŽู„ูŽุง ุชูŽุฌู’ุนูŽู„ู ุงู„ุฏู‘ูู†ู’ูŠูŽุง ุฃูŽูƒู’ุจูŽุฑูŽ ู‡ูŽู…ู‘ูู†ูŽุงุŒ ูˆูŽู„ูŽุง ู…ูŽุจู’ู„ูŽุบูŽ ุนูู„ู’ู…ูู†ูŽุงุŒ ูˆูŽู„ูŽุง ุชูุณูŽู„ู‘ูุทู’ ุนูŽู„ูŽูŠู’ู†ูŽุง ู…ูŽู†ู’ ู„ูŽุง ูŠูŽุฑู’ุญูŽู…ูู†ูŽุง

“Oh Allah, apportion to us such fear as should serve as a barrier between us and acts of disobedience; and such obedience as will take us to Your Jannah; and such as will make easy for us to bear in the calamities of this world. O Allah! let us enjoy our hearing, our sight and our power as long as You keep us alive and make our heirs from our own offspring, and make our revenge restricted to those who oppress us, and support us against those who are hostile to us, Let no misfortune afflict our Deen; let not worldly affairs be our principal concern, or the ultimate limit of our knowledge, and let not those rule over us who do not show mercy to us.”

ุงู„ู„ู‘ูŽู‡ูู…ู‘ูŽ ุฅูู†ู‘ููŠ ุฃูŽุณู’ุฃูŽู„ููƒูŽ ุงู„ุซู‘ูŽุจูŽุงุชูŽ ูููŠ ุงู„ู’ุฃูŽู…ู’ุฑูุŒ ูˆูŽุงู„ู’ุนูŽุฒููŠู…ูŽุฉูŽ ุนูŽู„ูŽู‰ ุงู„ุฑู‘ูุดู’ุฏูุŒ ูˆูŽุฃูŽุณู’ุฃูŽู„ููƒูŽ ู…ููˆุฌูุจูŽุงุชู ุฑูŽุญู’ู…ูŽุชููƒูŽุŒ ูˆูŽุนูŽุฒูŽุงุฆูู…ูŽ ู…ูŽุบู’ููุฑูŽุชููƒูŽุŒ ูˆูŽุฃูŽุณู’ุฃูŽู„ููƒูŽ ุดููƒู’ุฑูŽ ู†ูุนู’ู…ูŽุชููƒูŽุŒ ูˆูŽุญูุณู’ู†ูŽ ุนูุจูŽุงุฏูŽุชููƒูŽุŒ ูˆูŽุฃูŽุณู’ุฃูŽู„ููƒูŽ ู‚ูŽู„ู’ุจูŽุงู‹ ุณูŽู„ููŠู…ูŽุงู‹ุŒ ูˆูŽู„ูุณูŽุงู†ูŽุงู‹ ุตูŽุงุฏูู‚ูŽุงู‹ุŒ ูˆูŽุฃูŽุณู’ุฃูŽู„ููƒูŽ ู…ูู†ู’ ุฎูŽูŠู’ุฑู ู…ูŽุง ุชูŽุนู’ู„ูŽู…ูุŒ ูˆูŽุฃูŽุนููˆุฐู ุจููƒูŽ ู…ูู†ู’ ุดูŽุฑู‘ู ู…ูŽุง ุชูŽุนู’ู„ูŽู…ูุŒ ูˆูŽุฃูŽุณู’ุชูŽุบู’ููุฑููƒูŽ ู„ูู…ูŽุง ุชูŽุนู’ู„ูŽู…ูุŒ ุฅูู†ู‘ูŽูƒูŽ ุฃู†ู’ุชูŽ ุนูŽู„ุงู‘ูŽู…ู ุงู„ู’ุบููŠููˆุจู

“Oh Allah verily I ask of You for steadfastness and consistency in all my affairs; and I ask You for the resolve to adhere to the path of guidance. And I ask of You for that which obligates Your mercy and resolutions for Your forgiveness. And I ask of You for the capability to be thankful for Your blessings and to worship you in a correct and good way. And I ask of You for a heart which is purified in belief and free from desires and a truthful tongue. And ask of You for the best of what You know, and I seek refuge with You from the evil of what You know and I seek forgiveness for that which You know. Indeed You are the One who knows the unseen.”

ุงู„ู„ู‡ูู…ู‘ูŽ ุฅูู†ู‘ููŠ ุฃูŽุณู’ุฃูŽู„ููƒูŽ ุฅููŠู…ูŽุงู†ู‹ุง ู„ุงูŽ ูŠูŽุฑู’ุชูŽุฏู‘ูุŒ ูˆูŽู†ูŽุนููŠู…ู‹ุง ู„ุงูŽ ูŠูŽู†ู’ููŽุฏูุŒ ูˆูŽู…ูุฑูŽุงููŽู‚ูŽุฉูŽ ู…ูุญูŽู…ู‘ูŽุฏู ุตูŽู„ู‰ ุงู„ู„ู‡ ุนูŽู„ูŽูŠู‡ ูˆุณูŽู„ู… ูููŠ ุฃูŽุนู’ู„ูŽู‰ ุฌูŽู†ู‘ูŽุฉู ุงู„ู’ุฎูู„ู’ุฏู

“Oh Allah! I ask you for Iman that does not retrogress, bounties that do not deplete and the companionship of Muhammad (sallallahu โ€˜alayhi wa sallam) in the highest levels of the eternal Jannah.โ€

ุงูŽู„ู„ู‘ูฐู‡ูู…ู‘ูŽ ุงูŽุฑูู†ูŽุง ุงู„ู’ุญูŽู‚ู‘ูŽ ุญูŽู‚ู‘ู‹ุง ูˆู‘ูŽ ุงุฑู’ุฒูู‚ู’ู†ูŽุง ุงุชู‘ูุจูŽุงุนูŽู‡ู—ูˆูŽ ุงูŽุฑูู†ูŽุง ุงู„ู’ุจูŽุงุทูู„ูŽ ุจูŽุงุทูู„ู‹ุง ูˆูŽู‘ ุงุฑู’ุฒูู‚ู’ู†ูŽุง ุงุฌู’ุชูู†ูŽุงุจูŽู‡

“Oh Allah! Enable us to see the Truth as Truth and give us the ability to follow it. And show us the falsehood as false and give us the ability to refrain from it.”

Other duas from the pious predecessors:

“Oh Allah, do not make a lesson out of me for others, and do not let there be anyone who benefits more than me from what You have taught me.” By: AlMutarrif ibn ‘Abdullah

“Oh Allah, veil us with your beautiful veil and place beneath that veil what will please You from us.” By: Sufyan ibn ‘Uyaynah

And I am going to end this piece with a beautiful dua taught by Abdullah ibn Mas’ud:

“Oh Allah, Originator of the heavens and earth, Knower of the seen and unseen, I testify in this worldly life of mine that if You leave me to myself, by that You are bringing me closer to harm and distancing me from good. I have no confidence except in Your mercy, so let that be a covenant that you deliver to me on the Day of Judgment-for You never break promises.”


Till next time in shaa Allah, stay blessed!

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